Did you tell your partner how great he looked this morning? Acknowledging your partner is one of the best tips you can use to build and maintain a happy marriage.

Many couples who have been together for a long time forget acknowledging each other. They take each other for granted.

Recently, one of my clients decided to divorce. They told me they would therefore not be requiring coaching anymore. 

You may be thinking that this is a failure, that relationship coaching did not help them and so it is logical that they would not want to continue seeking help.

Well actually, this is where people and couples sometimes get misled about relationship coaching.

Although normal in all relationships, our emotional reactions benefit from being "monitored" and understood, so that we do not harm our relationship over time in a way that is beyond repair.

When we get upset, we are informed that something is not right for us. Our reaction may be disproportionate and as such show that we are unskilled at dealing with the situation, but this does not mean we are entirely "wrong".

Therefore we can learn not to entirely dismiss our emotions but rather to observe and be curious about them.